7 years into Marriage!

Some study online  states that if a couple successfully complete 7 years of marriage, they are most likely to stay together in the marriage forever 🙂



Husband: My wife is a fighter! What I love in her the most is that she never gives up.

Met her during most vulnerable days of her very early adulthood, She lost job due to recession in 2009  and was living in a far off city away from her family and folks. Had she not fought , she was most likely to be married(Arranged) off to someone else.

Down the years, while being in a miserably sad long  distance relationship with me, she fought her parents and entire family around her , in her city , for over 3 years to marry me.

Post marriage, she gave up her career to travel and live with me in another part of the globe far from her culture, people and life. Doesn’t stop there, when 30 years old joins university to study which gives her permits to work and rebuild a career from scratch.

Post gradaution, she moved to a different city for work but travel back and forth home almost every weekend  trying to find the balance between the career and me.

Now , almost 7 years into marriage, living together in our beautiful home, the fighter is fighting infertility  which takes a toll emotionally, physically, financialy and most importantly , the Society! Trying to balance her mind and heart and not losing sight of our relation.

I trust and adore my fighter!How can I not be in love with the her?

Wife: Thanks for the acknowledgement and appreciation! On contrary, you have inspired me, been my motivation to get through evrything simply because  I am extremely selfish and blindly believe my world revolves around you. I hear your voice and breath back of my mind when I am tired. Look at any of the scenarios above, you have been the SUN and my world revolves around you drawing the strength I need from you for anything and everything.

And……. I can do it all over again 100 percent if and only if you are in my life, make me feel the way I did, do and will do ,  my love!

Happy 7th Wedding Anniversary 🙂



Weekly picture challenge : Wish

…From ages, philosophers have been preaching and guiding all of us to live in the moment. To simply be present to enjoy life….

Today’s  challenge led me into a weird thought process. I started thinking what are the different emotions and tenses(time period) a ‘Wish‘ is associated with. Its funny and amusing at the same time how our thoughts flow in out of no where just from a word and this is exactly why I love the picture/word challenges. In short it is ‘food for thought’.

On thinking about what anyone would wish for , I could broadly classify them into positive and negative wishes which again is sub classified into three categories.


  1. Living in the past : This is where we all mostly wish for something or someone associating to an event that happened in the past. ex : ‘ I wish I did..’ , ‘I wish he was ….’ , ‘I wish my team won..’ etc. It is mostly  associated with regret , desire, missing out and so on.
  2. Living in the future : This category consists of wishes like ‘All the best’, ‘Wish you succeed..’ ‘Wish to  do well’ etc. which is associated with expectations , hope, looking forward to and so on.
  3. Living in the present :  I just realized this is my favorite category of wishes like ‘ A very good morning!’, ‘ Happy Birthday ‘, ‘Congratulations’ etc. I could not associate these with the past or the future. Could not associate these with anything else but Happiness and being content.  Through a simple good morning wish we don’t only live that very moment, but share and make someone else’s day too.

From ages, philosophers have been preaching and guiding all of us to live in the moment. Living in the moment devoid us from a lot of stressful feelings like regret, expectation etc. Best is TO BE. To simply be present to enjoy life. The word ‘Wish‘ got me into thinking how important it is to let go, not to expect but just experience life right now. In this very moment.

I could associate the picture above to ‘Good Morning !’  which has made to top in my list of wishes 🙂



What if The Buddha’s wife was in today’s time?

Don’t we have many Yashodharas who are living by themselves taking care of work, family, kids, chores, finances and not to forget themselves too

Hello there,

Tomorrow is ‘International Women’s Day’ and best wishes to all you lovely ladies out there in advance . Being a woman, life ride is not all smooth and easy at various stages of our lives. But kudos to our take on different situations we have been on and lets celebrate it with pride and a big smile in our eyes.

Speaking of wishes, reminds me of the whatsapp messages wishing me for being a woman. One of the forwards was about Gautham Buddha’s ‘Wife’ and is below given .


When I heard the story of Gautam Buddha, my question was always about his wife and son that he left behind…this write-up by Vikram Bhattacharya touches that part of the story 
He left her in the middle of the night. 
When she heard the news she was devastated. Yet, she did not complain but her life lost all meaning. The only reason for her to live now was her son. She wanted him to grow up to be a man that the world would look up to. 
Her friends and relatives came around and asked her to forget about the man who had left her and start life again. They asked her to marry again but she refused. She was young and beautiful and suitors queued up outside her door, but she refused each one of them. 
As the years went by she turned into a shell of her former self. She ate only one meal a day, did not care about how she looked, hardly slept the long nights and focused only on her son.
Then one fine day he came back!
He stood in front of her and she could hardly remember him as the man who had left her. “They call you the Buddha now?” she asked him gently. “I hear they do,” he answered in a calm fashion. “What does it mean?” she further inquired. “I think it means the enlightened one, a knower,” he informed. 
She smiled and then a silence.
“I suppose we have both learned something. Your lessons will make the world richer in spirit, but my lesson will unfortunately, remain largely unknown,” she reflected deeply.
“And what lesson is that?” he probed.
Her eyes sparkled with unshed tears, 
“That a woman alone does not need anyone to complete her. She is complete on her own.”…
Dedicated to all women on this International Women’s day.

On reading this message, it hit me hard how difficult it would have been for Yashodhara to live by herself independently without a man in her life in those days. A period when woman’s identity was driven by the man in her life.

It also made me wonder what if she was in today’s times? Don’t we have  many Yashodharas who are living by themselves taking care of work, family, kids, chores, finances and not to forget themselves too. With so much responsibilities on hand, today’s Yashodhara, if her husband abandoned her overnight , would say  ‘ Well I am happy that I have one less thing to worry about ! ‘ :).

With this, I once again wish all you lovely, bold, independent courageous women out there ‘ A Very Happy Women’s Day !’  Lets continue to rock the world! Good or bad, let us face it all with grace, kindness and love 🙂



Weekly Picture Challenge : Solitude

never really experienced loneliness to begin with let alone be journey in the path of solitude

Hello there, 

I  have lived in a metropolitan city of India for 26 years before I moved to UK and then later on to the USA. Everyday in my life back in India used to be very busy.

I have a big family back there. My school, work, family and friends, hobbies, social life etc. always kept me busy round the clock. The city and people around me had a big influence in making me an independent and bold girl at a very young age. Never did I have a calm, lone time spent that I can recall of. Only time I would be all by myself most of the days were when I am dead tired and sleeping in the night. I was someone who thought I could never be alone all by myself  as I never had to in the buzz of a busy city.


But over the years after moving out from my comfort zone, culture, family and friends I realized ‘SOLITUDE‘ was different from ‘Loneliness’. In the past I never really experienced loneliness to begin with let alone be journey in the path of solitude. At least in my case, to get away from loneliness I started exploring a whole new world where I spend hours doing something I love , all by myself.

And now I am at a stage where I enjoy cooking couple of hours with music being played out loud or indulge in a cup of tea sitting in my balcony with thoughts and memories flowing in or meditate in a dark space with a blank mind or paint something or simply stroll around a new city or a place. I don’t know if this solitude. But what I do know is it isn’t loneliness and I am enjoying every bit of it.

In the above picture, I am onlooking a frozen lake at a resort I stayed over this winter. Though I wasn’t alone when this was snapped,  I can relate how I feel about being alone and content with this picture. Hence sharing with you all with a question in mind ‘ Can loneliness lead to solitude if worked on it positively?’

Have a great weekend !












Write will never go wrong!

But awestruck about the world we enter in our sleep. Its crazy, complex, impractical . Yet feels so real.

Hello there, 

Its been only couple of days that I started blogging but its bringing back to me so many fond memories. So, today, thought of sharing few things that I wrote about in the past and it kind of stayed with me forever. And the best part is after effects and laughter that came along with every experience.

1. Novelist in me came alive when I was bed ridden due to a ligament tear. To kill my boredom, I ended up writing 20 page long imaginary story :P. No, I wasn’t crazy but just high on painkillers. 

After effect : Reading this 20 page long story to my friend is what stays with me forever. The laughter, teases, embarrassment that  followed the narration was simply priceless 🙂

2. Almost 9 years ago, I started dating this not so expressive, angry young man. Being a short tempered and sensitive person myself, I did not want to lose my cool and regret it later as most of the times I was the one being silly or over reacting. So I jotted down all my complaints in a book. The book only had curses, disagreements and nagging statements. 

After effect : Over the time we were in a long distance relationship sorts of arrangement. Before moving out of the city, I handed the book to him to read and have a good laugh at how silly I was .(Imagine someone getting to read a book full of  complaints about oneself)  I am not too sure how he felt about it till date. Few things are best if kept unknown…….or hell with it, I will ask my husband today how he felt 9 years ago. Yes, we are married now and nothing can be a secret anymore 😛

3. I used to get these scary  dreams during the most stressed out period of my life. these dreams lead me into buying a book on dreams to understand what dreams mean. In this book I learnt how it will be useful if we jot down our dreams , first thing in the morning. Guess I took it too seriously and jotted down a small book full of dreams.

After effect : No matter how many times I read it, it doesn’t make any sense to me. But awestruck about the  world we enter  in our sleep. Its crazy, complex, impractical . Yet feels so real.

These are few of many times I decided to write. Till date I have always enjoyed it every single time and it just occurred to me that every time I actually ‘Wrote’ in a book. No typing or editing involved like blogging. Yet, ‘Writing never went wrong’ literally or metaphorically 🙂


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